LGBTQ+ sex
Female anatomy & female anatomy
First, and quite obviously, there is no pregnancy risk when there is no sperm involved. However, there is risk of sexually-transmitted infections (STIs). Whether you are engaging in oral sex (mouth to private parts) or vagina-to-vagina sex, there is a possibility that STIs can transfer between a couple, and protection can be tricky. When performing oral sex, the best form of protection is a dental dam (basically a flat piece of latex or polyurethane, like a condom) and the HPV vaccine. Unfortunately, when it comes to vagina-to-vagina sex, there isn’t a very effective form of barrier protection. So what to do? Get tested for STIs. All parties. Knowing your status beforehand (and treating any infections) is the best option at this point in time.
Can you explain what frotting is and if there are any risk factors?
I had to look this up. Frotting is rubbing two penises together for sexual pleasure. Kinda like dry-humping. Risk factors would be transmission of STIs, especially those that live on the surface of the skin like HPV or herpes. It would technically be possible to spread other STIs like gonorrhea or chlamydia if there was exchange of semen, though this risk would be low.
Male anatomy & male anatomy
Again, the risk of pregnancy for two individuals with the same anatomy is zero. However, there remains a risk of STI spread with oral (mouth-to-penis and mouth-to-anus) and penis-to-anus sex. The best way to prevent spread of infections is the use of condoms for both oral and anal sex, get the HPV vaccine and get tested for STIs. STI testing is recommended once at the start of sexual activity and again as needed with symptoms or after sexual contact with someone who tests positive for an STI.
You also may have heard of something called anal douching (essentially washing out the anus and rectum prior to anal penetration). The goal is, perhaps obviously, that washing out will reduce the stool involved in anal sex. However, our bodies keep things relatively cleaned out down there (the muscles are great at squeezing the intestines shut) so stool shouldn’t be a major issue. More importantly, some studies have found that douching increases risk of transmitting HIV and other STIs because it can damage the healthy surface of the rectum. If you are going to douche, adding a condom can provide that added layer of protection.
Are male anal orgasms real? If so, how does one achieve it?
Of course they are! Yes, a man can orgasm from anal. There are plenty of studies that have shown that anal stimulation of the prostate can cause orgasm in males. The prostate is an organ that only exists in those male anatomy and it surrounds the inner portion of your urethra (pee tube). To stimulate the prostate you can feel inside the rectum, aiming toward the front of your body.
Asexuality
The reason this is in the LGBTQ+ section is that asexuality challenges the heterosexual experience that predominates popular culture and many societal expectations, as is the case for others who identify with the LGBTQ+ community. However, asexuality, or not experiencing sexual arousal or attraction for others, can be a completely normal human experience.
If you’re finding that you don’t experience sexual desires or arousal, you are okay. There’s plenty more to life than sex. It also doesn’t mean that you can’t be in a relationship. Some folks want companionship but do not desire sexual pleasure, and that’s just fine.
If you DO desire sexual arousal but are having trouble with it, then it might be worth discussing with a doctor as some medical conditions, like depression or abnormal hormone levels, may be contributing. Alternatively, you may not have figured out what turns you on yet, and that’s okay, too! There is no rush.